Anytime you had a chat with friends on domination and submission? Like many kink terms, it has taboo energy to it. You aren’t supposed to mess with stuff on the edge, right? But that’s what makes it so fun!
As it includes the word ‘play’, is it all fun and playful? Let’s know, you might try to shut your eyes while reading this in detail, in exclamation! 😉
Sexual play that is very extreme in nature. Said to be on the ‘edge’ of safety and sometimes even sanity. Can be very dangerous if not practiced correctly.
If you are a naughty, mischievous mood strikes you and your partner, edge play can add the perfect elements of spice and danger that will bring you and your partner closer and step up your level of sexual intensity. How so?
Edge play brings you right to the brink of the deepest, darkest parts of the psyche, the places few people dare to tread.
In BDSM, edgeplay is a subjective term for activity (sexual or mentally manipulative) that may challenge the conventional S.S.C. (safe, sane and consensual) scheme; if one is aware of the risks and consequences and is willing to accept them, then the activity is considered RACK (risk-aware consensual kink).
When I first read about it, it was scary. I had a discussion on this with my close friend, she said that in the world full of fantasies and dark room dirty talks such erotic play and ways of pleasure exist.
Some are even more harmful if done without taking proper precautions. Some also leads to sexual disorders. Kinks are epitome of a person’s intellectual and how far one can go to explore their desires and dreams.
I might like to spice up my sex life, got bored of my office routine work, want to live an adventurous life, want to impress my partner, be fetish about ropes, any reason can pursue me to try ‘Edge play’.
It is also called high-risk kink.
Edge Play may involve the consequences of potential short- or long-term harm or death, exemplified by activities such as breath play (erotic asphyxiation), fire play, knife play, fear play, temperature play, wax play and gun play.
The mindset of those involved constitutes what is edge play because knowledge of or experience with the activity or partner(s) may dictate what and to what extent they will act.
The propriety for more dangerous or taboo-themed activities varies by individual, due to differences in moralities as well as trust between participants and experience. The only consistent rule of edgeplay is that activities must not be coercive, deceitful, or injurious without prior agreement or knowledge.
This does exclude how others may react to the outcome(s) of the activity if they go beyond what can be handled by the partners.
It’s so specific to each partner’s interests, limits, and boundaries. So there is no need to go overboard if your partner is not comfortable.
Play where there is enough trust to push past what is comfortable creates the possibility of a new outcome, is called Edge Play.
A professional dominatrix based in New York confessed:
“My own experience with edge play is complicated. I push people’s boundaries all the time, but I never cross limits. I explore dangerous forms of play on a regular basis, but I recognize and respect the danger for what it is,” Domina Elle said.
“It is my job to do my research in advance, communicate risk as effectively as possible, negotiate consent, listen for withdrawal (or nullification) of consent, know what to do when something goes wrong, and to listen to my gut when I do not feel comfortable providing a certain type of experience for any reason.”
That being said, freedom and autonomy is more important to people than safety. That is why they practice risk aware consensual kink.”
Empathy is a core component to any form of ethical domination, along with “respect, mercy, and a fierce willingness to admit when you are wrong or don’t know what you are doing.”
“Edge play is definitely more about empathy, knowing your subject, and understanding the specific type of play you’re about to engage in than prior practice and advanced skills,”
Before trying Edge Play, ask yourself these questions:
Ask yourself why you are considering playing with a person’s edge
Examine whether this type of play falls within your system of ethics
Get educated on the type of play you decide to engage with
Negotiate with your scene partner(s) at least 24 hours in advance
Use a safe word within the scene.
Benefits of Edge Play:
For couples who know each other very well, edge play has a lot of benefits. You can get to see a new side of your partner and of yourself, one where all the social layers have been stripped away.
You may feel we know everything about your partner, but once you have a knife at their throat and they are begging for mercy, a new side of their personality emerges.
This type of play can increase the level of trust and closeness you both feel since it can help each person discover, explore, and share the darkest corners within themselves. It also keeps things fresh.
There are physical benefits too.
The excitement and fear such play induces can release nor epinephrine and adrenaline, and it can also release endorphins.
These help relieve stress and fight depression.
The fear and anticipation give way to heightened pleasure, releasing serotonin, dopamine, and vasopressin in large quantities, giving one a sense of happiness, fulfillment, and wellbeing.
So go ahead and explore your edge. Just make sure you and your partner(s) are on the same page, and be honest with yourself if you’re not ready. Your edge can wait for you.
Tie me up, please…” She said. They looked above at some vines and roots hanging down from the grassy area above the depression in the canal they were standing in. She was in his hands—he had to comply.
A little bit of kink was one of the most delicious of erotic pleasures. Catholic school girls were often the horniest—he could hardly contain his elation. He grasped her hands and neck, slowly moving towards her, eye to eye, sweaty hands and heart wrenching bites!
Sex comes to most of us with a twist.
Today’s unspeakable perversion is tomorrow’s kink, is next week’s good clean fun!
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